Having a neighbour whose dog barks excessively can be frustrating, particularly when the barking is frequent, lasts for long periods or happens at night.
However, speaking to your neighbour is often the best place to start. They may not realise how much their dog's barking is affecting you, particularly if the dog mainly barks when they are out of the house.
A calm conversation can sometimes solve the problem before it develops into a formal neighbour dispute or noise complaint.
A good starting point: Assume that your neighbour may not know there is a problem. They may be surprised to discover that their dog is barking when they are not there.
Choose the right time to talk
Try to choose a calm moment when neither of you is busy, angry or distracted.
Approaching your neighbour immediately after being woken by barking at 2am is unlikely to produce the best conversation!
If possible, speak to them during the day when everyone has had an opportunity to calm down.
Think about safety first. If you feel uncomfortable or unsafe approaching your neighbour directly, you do not have to do so. Consider another approach, such as mediation or contacting your local council.
Start with the problem, not the person
Try to explain what is happening without accusing your neighbour of being irresponsible or inconsiderate.
There is a big difference between saying:
"Your dog is completely out of control and you clearly don't care."
and saying:
"I wanted to mention that your dog has been barking quite a lot at night recently. I'm not sure if you realise because it seems to happen when you're asleep or out."
The second approach is much more likely to start a productive conversation.
Be specific about the barking
General statements such as "your dog is always barking" can sound exaggerated, even when you are genuinely frustrated.
Instead, explain when the barking normally happens and approximately how long it lasts.
For example:
"It seems to happen most evenings between about 10:30pm and midnight, and sometimes it wakes me up during the night."
If you have been keeping a barking diary, the information in it can help you describe the problem accurately.
Explain how it affects you
Your neighbour may understand the problem better if you explain the effect the barking is having on you rather than simply telling them that the dog is noisy.
For example, you might explain that:
- the barking wakes you during the night
- you are struggling to get enough sleep
- it is affecting your ability to work from home
- it makes it difficult to concentrate
- you are finding the repeated noise stressful
- you are unable to enjoy your garden or home normally
Try to describe the impact honestly without exaggerating it.
Remember: Your neighbour is much more likely to understand the problem if they can see what the barking actually means for you and your household.
Don't assume your neighbour knows
One of the most important things to remember is that your neighbour may genuinely have no idea how much their dog barks.
This is particularly common when barking occurs:
- when the owner is at work
- when the owner is shopping
- when the owner is asleep
- when the owner is in another part of the house
- when the dog is left alone
Dogs can behave very differently when their owners are not present.
A useful conversation starter:
"I don't know if you realise, but your dog seems to bark quite a lot when you're not around. I thought I'd mention it because I wasn't sure you knew."
Give your neighbour an opportunity to respond
Once you have explained the problem, give your neighbour a chance to respond.
They may tell you that:
- they were unaware of the barking
- the dog has recently developed a problem
- the dog is anxious when left alone
- they are already working with a dog trainer
- the dog has an underlying health problem
- they have recently changed the dog's routine
Listening to their explanation can help identify a solution.
Try to understand why the dog is barking
Barking is normal canine behaviour and can have many different causes.
A dog may bark because it is:
- bored
- frightened
- anxious
- excited
- protective of its territory
- reacting to people or animals
- seeking attention
- distressed when left alone
- responding to unfamiliar noises
- experiencing pain or illness
Understanding the cause can make it easier for the owner to address the behaviour.
Suggest solutions rather than demands
If your neighbour is receptive, you could discuss practical ways of reducing the barking.
Depending on the cause, this might include:
- more exercise
- additional mental stimulation
- training
- reducing the dog's exposure to visual triggers
- changing where the dog spends time in the house or garden
- addressing separation anxiety
- consulting a vet
- working with a qualified dog behaviour professional
You don't need to tell your neighbour how to train their dog. The important thing is to make them aware of the problem and encourage them to find an appropriate solution.
Don't threaten your neighbour
It can be tempting to say that you will immediately report them to the council, contact the police or take legal action.
In most situations, this is unlikely to improve the relationship.
Avoid statements such as: - "I'll report you if that dog barks again."
- "You'll be hearing from my solicitor."
- "Everyone on the street hates your dog."
- "You obviously don't care about anyone else."
If the problem eventually does require formal action, you will generally be in a stronger position if you can show that you have tried to resolve the issue reasonably.
Don't criticise the dog
Remember that your neighbour is likely to be emotionally attached to their dog.
Saying that their dog is "horrible", "bad" or "out of control" can make the conversation personal very quickly.
Concentrate on the noise and its effect, rather than criticising the animal.
Better: "The barking is becoming difficult for us."
Rather than: "Your dog is horrible."
What if your neighbour becomes defensive?
Some people will understandably feel defensive when they are told that their dog is causing a problem.
If this happens, try not to turn the conversation into an argument.
You could simply say:
"I understand that your dog is important to you. I'm not trying to cause an argument. I just wanted to let you know that the barking is affecting us and hopefully we can find a way of reducing it."
Sometimes ending the conversation politely and giving your neighbour time to think about what you have said is more productive than continuing the discussion.
What if your neighbour says they can't hear the barking?
This is quite possible.
The location of the dog, the construction of the properties and the direction in which sound travels can all affect what different people hear.
A dog may also bark when the owner is out of the house and remain relatively quiet when the owner is present.
Rather than arguing about whether the barking happens, explain when you are hearing it and what effect it is having.
What if your neighbour agrees to do something?
Give them a reasonable opportunity to try to address the problem.
Behavioural problems do not always disappear overnight. Depending on the reason for the barking, it may take time for training or other changes to have an effect.
Be realistic: The aim is usually to reduce excessive or unnecessary barking, not to make a dog completely silent. Some barking is normal dog behaviour.
What if nothing changes?
If you have spoken to your neighbour and the barking continues, you still have options.
Continue keeping an accurate record of the barking, including:
- dates
- times
- duration
- frequency
- whether it occurs during the day or at night
- how it affects you
- any attempts you have made to resolve the problem
You may then wish to consider mediation or contacting your local council if the barking is persistent and seriously affecting your enjoyment of your home.
You can find more information in our guides:
- How to prove your neighbour's dog is causing a nuisance
- How councils investigate dog barking complaints
- Dog barking at night: what are your rights?
What if you are the dog owner?
If a neighbour approaches you about your dog's barking, try not to immediately assume that they are complaining unfairly.
Even if you rarely hear your dog bark, it is possible that it behaves differently when you are not there.
Ask your neighbour for specific information about when the barking occurs. This can help you identify a pattern and work out what might be causing it.
A positive response can make a big difference:
"Thanks for telling me. I didn't realise the dog was barking when we weren't here. Can you let me know roughly when it happens so we can try to work out why?"
Taking a complaint seriously does not mean admitting that you have done anything wrong. It simply shows that you are willing to investigate the problem.
Could mediation help?
If communication between neighbours has broken down, mediation can sometimes provide a way forward.
A mediator can help both sides explain their concerns and work towards an agreement without turning the dispute into a formal legal process.
This can be particularly useful where both neighbours want to resolve the problem but have become frustrated with each other.
Keep the relationship civil
You may have to continue living next door to this person for many years.
Even if the barking is extremely frustrating, keeping communication civil can make it much easier to reach a solution.
You don't have to become friends with your neighbour. The objective is simply to find a way for everyone to enjoy their homes without unreasonable disturbance.
The goal is a solution, not a victory. A successful outcome is one where the barking is reduced and both households can get on with their lives.
If the problem becomes a formal complaint
If informal discussions and mediation do not resolve the problem, contacting your local council may be appropriate where the barking amounts to a potential noise nuisance.
Your previous attempts to resolve the issue can be useful background information, particularly if you have kept an accurate record of the problem.
However, you should not feel that you have to endure a serious and persistent noise problem indefinitely simply because you have tried speaking to your neighbour.
In summary
Talking to your neighbour about a barking dog can feel awkward, but a calm conversation is often the best place to start.
- Choose a suitable time to talk.
- Explain the problem calmly.
- Be specific about when the barking happens.
- Explain how it affects you.
- Give your neighbour an opportunity to respond.
- Avoid personal criticism or threats.
- Give reasonable time for solutions to work.
- Keep a record if the problem continues.
- Consider mediation if communication breaks down.
- Contact your local council if the problem remains serious and persistent.
Sometimes the simplest conversation solves the problem. Your neighbour may genuinely have no idea that their dog is disturbing you. Giving them the opportunity to do something about it can prevent a minor problem from becoming a major neighbour dispute.
Legal information
This article provides general information about dealing with neighbour disputes involving barking dogs in the UK. It is not legal advice. Noise nuisance laws and enforcement procedures can differ between England, Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland.